Yearly Archives: 2009

(My) Life Imitates Film

Just remembered to repost this now that this new home for Steve’s Not Nice is kind-of sort-of unpacked.

For many years, I think, Pedro Almodovar was directing my life. That’s when I would see things like an old minivan full of clowns driving down the street. Clowns in full makeup and costume, not just goofy people. It was weird, but it was quirky. My life had these bizarre but whimsical moments.

I still have bizarre moments, but they’re less whimsical. For a while I thought maybe Guillermo del Toro had taken over the role of director. I was even more certain when I saw Pan’s Labyrinth.

But that was before I learned about Chris Rentzel, director of The Many Strange Stories of Triangle Woman. I’ve just seen the trailer and a description, but I’m pretty sure he’s directed a vignette or two of my life lately!

Respect

This post first appeared April 12, 2007, on the original Blogger format for this blog. It addresses what were immediate news events at the time: the dismissal of the criminal case against the Duke lacrosse players and Don Imus being fired for sexist and racist remarks. And how does that have anything to do with Respect?

What a weird, paradoxical day it was in the news! Yesterday two windows focused the country on the deep and complicated wounds of racism and sexism.
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Integrity

This post first appeared April 4, 2007, on the original Blogger format for this blog. As I move the blog to this hosted site I will be reintroducing past posts along with new content.

So I was driving along Grapevine Highway with my 16-yr-old son in the car and we passed this new ice cream place, “Woolley’s.” Actually, it’s frozen custard, which I think means a little softer and a lot more fattening than ice cream.

I told him, “I finally got to try that place the other day when I took your little brother.”

He said, “I know you’ve been there. You took me. Remember?”
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I Am Not Nice

Over the years I’ve been accused of being nice. I used to feel very worried when I heard that, thinking that somehow I had misrepresented myself and given people the wrong impression. Don’t blame me, I would think. I didn’t do anything to give you that idea. I figured that comments like that came from people who had only seen a little bit of me trying to put my best foot forward, or were simply too hasty in their judgment.
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Life and Work Design Coach

I am grateful to the handful of you who have followed along while I was Chasing Wisdom, then veered down the Twisting Road, stayed On The Twisting Road, and then tried to update my Travel Log regularly. You are the ones who know I have never settled on a title for the work I do in this business I am growing. I can’t say I’ve decided for sure, but I am very close when I call myself a “Life and Work Design Coach.” This begs the question: How is my own custom life and work plan coming along?
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rEvolution

There’s a whimsical scene in Harry Potter And The Chamber Of Secrets where the boy wizard is waiting in Professor Dumbledore’s office to speak with the headmaster. He notices many curious and amazing devices, but he also notices a sickly looking bird in a cage. Just as Harry is most anxious about not messing up anything in the office, the bird bursts into flames. Soon afterwards Professor Dumbledore enters. Instead of being upset, he is delighted that his pet phoenix, recently cantankerous in old age, has finally died so he can be reborn from his ashes as a young and spry chick. It’s ashes time for the Travel Log.
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What Kind Of –cation Are You Planning?

A week ago Wednesday our internet connection went down during severe thunderstorms. It wasn’t back up until Monday afternoon this week. That meant I spent nearly a week without access to e-mail or online forums or search engines. Since most of my interaction as a coach and consultant is through the internet, I felt disconnected, almost invisible. But the forced break got me to think a lot about the value of planning and taking real breaks from my routine.
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50/50 Nation?

There seems to be a divide in the United States, more or less down the middle, that flies under the radar. It’s not out in the open like the much-touted red-blue divide of this decade. It’s not about marriage or choice or any other hotly debated values-based topic. It’s not even something simple and fun, like Ford vs. Chevy or Pepsi vs. Coke. It’s insidious, and it defines some people very deeply.
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Natural Way Of Being

Our older son’s graduation Friday night took about twelve hours – give or take ten. For those of you attending graduations with hundreds crossing the stage, two hours may not seem like a long time. But his class had only sixty-six. Fortunately, I caught myself finding ways to stay interested and learned something about all of us.
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