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February 8, 2011


* Steve’s Field Note
* Idea – Planning for Flexibility
* Resource – Coaching Certification Special
* Resource – Tapa Palapa Podcast Menu
* Advisory Board – Spread the word!

Steve’s Field Note


I’m on a road trip in Orlando this week. I brought my twelve-year-old son to Universal Studios to see the Wizarding World of Harry Potter, as well as some of his favorites from a couple of previous trips. We’ve fought aliens at Men in Black, cleared the streets with Spiderman, gone to the future to take on Skynet with the governator, and spun all over Springfield as Sideshow Bob tried to kill the Simpsons. The road here was pretty straight, but there are plenty of twists on the rides!

The trip alone was a big enough change of daily routine that it required a lot of flexibility from me, but the week before we left we were iced in and then snowed in for days. Being stuck in the house the week I was preparing to be gone for a week was definitely a flexibility pop quiz.

I was glad to find out there’s a Cheeburger Cheeburger in Orlando. It’s my favorite burger place but our local one closed years ago. The burger last night was almost as good as I remember them being in the past, and that’s saying a lot because my memory of them has grown to mythological standards since they closed. Tomorrow we plan to visit Animal Kingdom, then on Thursday it’s back to Hogwarts to escape the dementors again and sip some butter beer.

Our return trip takes us through Vicksburg so we’ll tour the battlefield. It rounds out the trip nicely since we stopped to tour the USS Alabama battleship on the way out. Have you planned anything educational, entertaining, or just plain interesting lately?

Enjoy the scenery on the Twisting Road!

Planning for Flexibility

It may sound like an oxymoron to plan for flexibility, since flexibility can seem to be the opposite of having a plan, especially a rigid plan. But flexibility is a tool of resiliency, and it is easier to accomplish if you plan for it.

First Things First

Being flexible means being ready to let go of plans or change the order of things quickly. It’s unsettling to let go of plans when it seems like important things won’t get done. Flexibility is useful if it helps you get important things done while letting go of less important things, but it’s a real flop if you just wind up letting go of important things. When planning what you need to do, get in the habit of ranking priorities and knowing where the “absolute” dates are and where the safety padding is in the schedule. Then when circumstances change you have a quick summary of what you can drop – for now – and what you really need to keep at the top spot.

Fixed Purpose, Free Style

One way to incorporate flexibility into your day so you can practice it is to be set on what you are going to accomplish and why, but open to trying different ways to accomplish things. It may be important to complete a records-keeping task, but not important to do it the same old way. Maybe you can move the paperwork to an outdoor table, or do some of the simple tasks with your papers spread out on the floor, or maybe you can have energizing music in the background. Even changing the order of things, as long as you don’t create a more difficult task, can freshen things up and make flexibility a helpful option.

The Law of Averages

There will be times when something important must be done, but something pressing shows up. You may have to do the recurring responsibility more quickly and less completely once in a while. Maybe you are good at sending thank-you letters or e-mails but now you have little time. A quick note is good enough – this time, but not every time. If you organize the files well or keep up-to-date on the checking account or keep your supplies well stocked, once in a while you can afford to drop it a notch so you have time for something important that comes up.

Question Tradition

Maybe you’re being consistent and thorough with your responsibilities, and for the most part that’s probably a good thing. But is it always necessary? Shake things up – on purpose – to find out. Do you really need to spend all that time preparing a list of your daily to-dos? Try a day with a brief list, or no list at all, to find out how important that level of planning is. If it’s not necessary, you just opened up more room for flexibility. Do you really need to plan a detailed meal and set a nice table when you entertain friends? Try making – or even buying – food that’s simple to set out and eat and spend more time with your guests than preparing the meal. Maybe there’s room to free up some flexibility time there, too.

Make Backup Plans for Practice

Plan “B” and Plan “C” exist because the people who have to make Plan “A” found out things don’t always happen the way we plan them. Sometimes you have to think about what can go wrong if something doesn’t happen on time, or a predictable obstacle shows up. It’s being proactive to anticipate these challenges and prepare for them. But it’s also practice for your brain to handle unexpected challenges that require you to be flexible. When you get in the habit of anticipating and planning ways to solve problems, your mind gets used to solving problems. A mind that is quick to see solutions to problems is one of your best tools for being flexible.

Stick to the part of your plan that is essential, the core reason you are doing something important. Don’t invest your emotional intensity in the part of the plan that isn’t essential. Leave yourself options for how and when you will make the important things happen. You’ll be removing the artificial stress of the nonessential and learning lots of tricks for dancing through obstacles to get the essential done.

Coaching Certification Special

I am continuing to discount my full monthly fee for coaching by 50% for anyone willing to allow me to report the number of sessions we have together in my certification packet. I don’t have to report the content of the sessions, just the client’s name and the dates the sessions took place. This discount will apply to my package of four (4) full sessions per month.

Anyone who takes up my offer will be eligible for this discount for up to six (6) months of coaching. It won’t apply to a brief sessions package or single sessions. I’m offering the discount only with the full monthly package in order to accrue my hours more quickly. The incentive for you is the discount. The incentive for me to offer the discount is to coach and record a lot of hours. Wins all around!

Call me at (817) 416-8971 or e-mail me at Steve@TwistingRoad.com for the details.

Tapa Palapa Podcast

For Febuary our menu theme is “What’s Love Got To Do With It?”
Our first podcast for the month is posted, but our second was delayed because of the frozen roads. You can enjoy “Why Love Matters” right now, and return soon for…

*Preparing for love
*Head over heels
*Lasting love

Click here to listen to the latest episode.

Advisory Board

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Thanks for Joining Me on the Journey,

Steve Coxsey

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